HEALTHYSELF Counselling in Surbiton & Kingston, Surrey

I see clients both face-face and online (by Zoom). Should you wish to get in touch, please feel free to contact me at the number given on the right hand side of this screen or email me (martin@healthyself.co.uk).

In looking for a counsellor / therapist, it’s important that you find someone with whom you feel comfortable. While it's always wise to 'shop around', this can be time-consuming and even confusing. (A recent search on the BACP directory for a therapist within 10 miles of Surbiton (KT6), where I'm based, returned over 900 results!) Given the number of counsellors/ therapists - not to mention the types of counselling available in between KT1 and SW1 postcodes, you may already have found the task to be more complicated than you might have thought.
To this end the link below will provide you with independent information that may help focus your search.
BACP - How to find a therapist

Please email or leave me a voicemail, (Tel: 07846 827062) with no obligation if you have any queries, and I’ll get back to you as soon as I’m available. You can email me via the link at the side of this page.

Thanks again for visiting.


Martin
Martin Larmour
Counsellor & Psychotherapist

• Experienced, accredited - British Association of Counselling/Psychotherapy (BACP) therapist.
• Practice located a 3-min walk from Surbiton mainline station
• Sessions last 50 minutes - the ‘therapeutic hour’
• Evening and morning appointments available
• Governed by BACP professional Code of Ethics
• Reasonable costs (online sessions charged at £50, Face-Face £60-£65)
• Student discount available (f/t students)
• Addiction counsellor

I am based in Surbiton,  making it easy for anyone coming from any of the following:
London, Kingston, Wimbledon, Raynes Park, Worcester Park, Hampton, Guildford, Esher, New Malden, Hampton, Mitcham, Sutton, Chessington, Banstead, Carshalton, Walton-on-Thames.  As we have all had to get used to 'hybrid' working, online appointments have the advantage of making geographical location largely irrelevant. 

“..... Basically I feel happy and like I understand myself so much more. I wanted to say a huge thank you to you. You helped me so much - more than I ever thought possible. I feel like with your help and guidance things are manageable and even enjoyable!!” (Former client)

I work as an 'integrative relational' counsellor in Surbiton. This simply means that I have studied a number of different schools of therapeutic approach and have integrated particular perspectives into my practice to promote optimum therapeutic benefit. Most recently I have undertaken the studies in the highly acclaimed 'Internal Family Systems' model - which adopts a systemic orientation to the inner workings of our minds. The model is based on the principle that we each have 'parts' of ourselves that holds onto experiences, and other parts that try to protect us from anything too painful. Our minds are effectively a system that is trying to manage our experience.  I've written a brief blog entry which you'll find on the 'My Blog' tab if you wish to find out a bit more. 

I have dealt extensively with addiction of one kind or another through my work with ASCA in Kingston and Richmond*. I also deal with those areas listed below.

• Alcohol, cocaine - substance abuse
• Stress
• Personal / Work Relationships
• Panic Attacks
• Anxiety
• Bereavement
• Redundancy
• Depression
• Relationship with food
• Sexual anxieties
• Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
• Co-dependency in relationships

   

Addiction can take a number of forms and often masks an underlying issue. If allowed to develop, it can become very destructive. Addictive behaviours aren't confined to excessive use of alcohol or drugs. They include for example, unhealthy relationships, food, sex or pornography. Generally, repeated behaviours which are damaging to you, and often those around you, may be signs of an addiction. Therapy helps uncover the underlying issues and can be a key factor in extinguishing unhealthy habits.

Why not get a sense of where you are in the general scheme of things by using the NHS mood checker tool. It will give you an indication of just how anxious or depressed you might be feeling and whether you might need to do something about it.
Click here to go to the mood checker

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Internal Family Systems approach

Earlier this year I completed a course in Internal Family Systems training.  This is a truly fascinating and powerful approach to therapy. It is a synthesis of two, if not three, therapeutic paradigms. Firstly that of Family Therapy, which views the family as a dynamic system made up of various parts. When the parts are in harmony - all is well, but when one or more parts are not then problems can, and do, arise. Secondly – that the mind is not a simple unified entity but is in fact, plural. This is the idea that we each contain many different subpersonalities. If you find this a bit odd, consider whether you’ve ever found yourself wondering something like  ‘what got into me in that situation?’ ‘Why did I do /say that?’ or having to admit -  ‘I just couldn’t help myself…!’.  Other therapeutic disciplines might refer to ‘ego states’ or ‘schema’ of ‘arechetypes’ – i.e. multiplicity of the mind is not a new idea.  Internal Family Systems founder Dr. Richard Schwarz recognised that the individual brings to therapy their own 'family' of internal psychological parts. Each of these parts has a role to play in keeping the individual's system balanced. When we find ourselves caught up in harmful patterns of behaviours e.g. anxiety, depression, drugs, eating, sex – there’s a part that’s likely taken on an extreme role.  There is also a third vital aspect to the IFS model – which is that it recognises that we each have a core essence, or ‘Self’, which is not a part – but is our core– that makes us most fully ourselves, as individuals – and is in effect a spiritual element which would be readily understood by many cultures and traditions throughout history.  ‘People have described Self as feeling centred- a state of calm, well being and lightheartedness “ (Pastor and Guvain -IFS manual). Likewise “The Self cannot be damaged and knows how to heal…” (Shwartz and Sweezy ‘Internal Faily Systems Therapy’ 2019).

I’m delighted to have done the training and the more acquainted I become with the model – the more I learn to accept that we each have all the internal resources we need to bring healing to our own systems. (11.2023).

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